Monday, November 29, 2010

time for a change

Normally my blog is about dating and the bullshit that goes along with being a sexually confused single woman. This is not the same old shit. Today I am overwhelmed by the heartache, the abandoned, the forgotten, the sick, the cold, and the mistreated. There is so much to say, I don’t know where to start, but I have to start somewhere.


First: Nevada doesn’t have a fucking needle exchange. Do you realize that our “Battle Born State” has one of the highest Hepatitis C rates in our lovely country? Do you know that heroine use is up while meth is down? Not that people weren’t and aren’t shooting meth, but the preferred way to inject H is via needle. So, why the fuck is it against the law to have clean rigs available to addicts? It doesn’t make a non-drug user say, “Gee whiz, since there is a clean rig available I guess I will put down the pez and shoot some dope.” I want to start a harm reduction coalition, who is with me?


Second: Has any one been down to Record Street and E.4th lately? I have. I brought sandwiches down, and you know what I discovered; a shit load of hungry homeless people. There isn’t enough food at all of the shelters and churches. Those amazing souls were thankful for a leftover pulled pork sandwich, when I had just dined on a fucking gourmet dinner. They were huddled under tarps, while I got out of a fucking B.M.W. with heated seats. They didn’t judge how the sandwich reached them, they were happy to receive it. When was the last time you didn’t look a gift horse in the mouth? I will answer honestly, I ALWAYS questions the motives of kindness, and wonder what I am missing out on. Also, I know I wasn’t the only one with more leftovers than I knew what to do with, where the hell were you? Don’t be scared, feed a hungry person, I know you have a bird feeder.


Third: There are more and more animals on death row. I know in contrast to the horror that so many humans are facing in this dark economy it is easy to dismiss the plight of our 2 and 4 legged friends. There are many cases of pets being displaced because their owners become homeless and they cannot be cared for. Many animals find their way into the “animal welfare” system because of abuse. And some were born into the “foster” system. If you must have a puppy of a certain breed, volunteer at your local Humane Society first, then if you still maintain that the Schnoodle from Vegas is the only pet for you, so fucking be it. But I just bet that won’t be the case.


I can only speak for myself when I say that I am luckier than most. I am warm, I am full, and quite honestly I am a little bit drunk. But I care, a lot. I don’t know what to do with all the caring I have, but I have to do something. Do you care? Do you want to do something too? Then do it with me, forget that I may have offended you, what’s done is done. Yesterday only matters when the Beatles sing about it. Join me and let us all make a difference. If we don’t, who will? Somebody must know somebody that can help me change laws. Somebody must know somebody with a van that can help me take warm soup to cold souls. Somebody must know somebody that can foster a pet. If we all do what we can, then our “fish bowl” can be a better place. And who is to say that we can’t cause a big ripple? I am tired of being a complainer that doesn’t do a GOD DAMN THING! Aren’t you?

Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Dear Sir

To Whom It May Concern:

I am online dating to try and find a guy to take me to dinner, rub my feet, listen to music with and have the sex with on occasion. BUT, until I know you, talk to you, smell you, have dinner with you, and generally know if you are anything more than an average boring sack of bitterness I don’t know where things will go. If and when they graduate to hot tub fun, you will be most happy. I go places ladies don’t go, but if you continue to “sext” or what ever this crap is considered you will never get a heavy breathing phone call.

Sincerely,

“never gonna get it”


From Him:

Lime?
Are those tattoos of the dogs real?

M

My response:

yup, real tattoos of a real dog even.

Now it gets really good…….

Wow I have never seen a 1D dog in real life. Kidding.

Great profile. Most of them I read are so F'n boring. and they all have the same picture of them standing in front of the Eiffel tower or on the great wall of china. There must be some divorce lawer in town that gives away a trip to Paris with every new divorce.

I dont know who Glenn Beck is. Is he on CNN or Fox news?

Do you have a hot tub?
(really, he said that!)

M

Monday, November 22, 2010

FUCKING SNOW

Last Thursday I was really excited about the upcoming weekend. My Incline Smooth Jazz man was going to call me Friday and set up a time and place for our Saturday date. I was pretty excited, he was older than I had initially said I wanted, but ooh sooo cute. But then Friday rolls along and the email I get isn't a time/place set up, but a.......

"light of the impending snow storm I was hoping that you would consent to a rain check on this weeks date in Reno. I would prefer fair weather in which to drive to Reno in and drive back from especially probably if I imbibe.

Thanks for your understanding and I will be in touch. Or shoot me back a message"

.......REALLY? But it was “all good”, because I had another date Sunday. No worries there, he's a tried and true Truckee man and nothing will keep him away. NOPE, Saturday he tells me he must take a rain check too because of the storm.

In the long run it all worked out because I had a nice relaxing evening with friends on Saturday. I made 3 new friends and was given a hula-hoop (stay tuned for my "bitter with a hoop" blog), and watched a super cool L.E.D. hula-hoop light show. So I wasn't very bitter at all, and on Sunday I made my two best friends in the world an incredible dinner. Veggie "ground round" and super mushroom marinara sauce with whole-wheat pasta. It was freaking fantastic.

So really I guess it was a blessing that I was canceled on because I am pretty sure Smooth Jazz wasn't going to give me a hula-hoop.

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Bitter at the Gym

So, I am in the process of finding a decent man to buy me dinner and make sweet, sweet, s-n-m with me. I joined a gym in order to attract the right kind of man. One that I find attractive, has money (for the hotel suites, honey I don't F*** where I sleep), and isn't a complete douche bag. While at the gym today I thought to my self, "self, how much do I weigh," boy was that the worst thing I could think. Next thing I know I find myself on the scale, and what happened next wasn't pretty. Lets just say 8 pounds over the initial 30 pounds I already knew were extra.
ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So my reverse body dysmorphia has reached an all time high. I have never felt sexier, or more confident. But this fat gut isn't going to attract the right kinda guy. There will be NO: comb overs, republicans, recent divorcee's, fatties, jobless, without a car, scrubs of any kind, under 5ft 10in, or any type of loser. So time for this fatty to get serious. Otherwise I see a grateful comb over guy with a mid life crisis Miata in my future, and that is too bleak for me.

Saturday, November 13, 2010

Somethings Shouldn't Be Talked About Pre-Coffee

I knew when I started online dating I would be in for some adventures with the opposite sex. This is Reno, NV after all. It is a town full of “whore culture,” as I like to call it. But even in Reno being offered a 3-way before 9 a.m. is out of the ordinary. Having my sexuality questioned by someone I don’t know is new as well. With whom I share my sheets is my business, if I share them with you, then we can talk 3-ways. Perhaps offering to buy me dinner would be a better segue into pre-coital conversation rather than yahoo.com instant messanger.

HIM: are you bi/bi-curious?

ME: Are you asking me if I'm into chicks or if I like bi guys

HIM:do you like girls?

ME:depends on the woman. not usually in a 3 some way though. not my thing

HIM:gotcha

ME:Is that your online dating goal? 3 way?

ME:hahaha! love it!

HIM:not my "goal" but i do have a friend (with benefits) that is alway interested in fmf play

HIM:she inexperienced but want to "get into it:"

HIM:very cool lady

ME:ahhh got it. well, lets see if we click, it not hook me up with your friend